The lack of loyalty/ease some can cut associations is a character flaw.
Sadly those who do this often love their sense of self to never repent or seek to fix their disloyalty… but rather seek out to gather others with the same character flaw. Also, find those that are unaware of you disloyalty and live long enough to understand you in the same way others in the past have.
It speaks to a lack of love, a deficit of the Spirit of God.
Love is defined. If that does not define your character and loyalty, the problem is not the definition but one’s unwillingness to strive to out the definition. Our commitment to love is a reflection of our true love for God, truth and our being motivated by the Spirit of God.
This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience—it looks for a way of being constructive. It is not possessive: it is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance.
“This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience—it looks for a way of being constructive. It is not possessive: it is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance.”
“Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage. It is not touchy. It does not keep account of evil or gloat over the wickedness of other people. On the contrary, it is glad with all good men when truth prevails.
Love knows no limit to its endurance, no end to its trust, no fading of its hope; it can outlast anything. It is, in fact, the one thing that still stands when all else has fallen.”
1 Corinthians 13:5-8
Oh, but I more spiritual, wise, insightful than __________, I prophesy, I am used in the gifts… ??
The scripture is talking to you here; listen up.
“If I speak with the eloquence of men and of angels, but have no love, I become no more than blaring brass or crashing cymbal. If I have the gift of foretelling the future and hold in my mind not only all human knowledge but the very secrets of God, and if I also have that absolute faith which can move mountains, but have no love, I amount to nothing at all. If I dispose of all that I possess, yes, even if I give my own body to be burned, but have no love, I achieve precisely nothing.”
In fact, Jesus spoke to those who are not motivated by love, but by self-seeking, self-dealing ways. The word is iniquity.
“Strive to enter in at the strait gate: for many, I say unto you, will seek to enter in, and shall not be able.
When once the master of the house is risen up, and hath shut to the door, and ye begin to stand without, and to knock at the door, saying, Lord, Lord, open unto us; and he shall answer and say unto you, I know you not whence ye are:
Then shall ye begin to say, We have eaten and drunk in thy presence, and thou hast taught in our streets.
But he shall say, I tell you, I know you not whence ye are; depart from me, all ye workers of iniquity.
There shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth, when ye shall see Abraham, and Isaac, and Jacob, and all the prophets, in the kingdom of God, and you yourselves thrust out.”
Luke 13
How to fix the problem if you find yourself convicted by the words and scriptures above.
Humble repentance, honest confession, make yourself accountable to people who will be honest with you, rather than pat you on the head and tell you, “Bless your heart.”
Go make it right with those who stood with you, helped you when you were going through hard times, and showed mercy to you.
Those same people will gladly forgive you and have been praying for you, even though you acted the fool.